Relationship Coaching for Married Couples
The kids are out of the house, and here we are together. Now what?
Bill* – We’ve been married 25 years now…
Our kids are grown, and they’ve all left the house. It’s just Julia and me now.
I thought we did everything right. I went to work. Put food on the table. Paid for everything the kids needed. Stayed faithful. I thought I would live the American dream and retire well.
Yet, I can’t help but feel awful in this quiet house with Julia. I’ve been so focused on the kids and the family that I don’t even know my wife anymore. I know I love her. But she feels so distant. I don’t know what to do.
Julia* – Ever since our last child left the house…
… and Bill retired, it’s like, suddenly, we are forced to face the problems in our marriage—some of which we didn’t even know existed.
All because we no longer have the excuse of sticking together for the sake of our kids…
I thought I did everything right. I stayed faithful, raised our children, maintained our home… even worked for a little bit to help with our finances. I’m a good mom.
But now, the kids are gone, and I don’t even feel like a wife. It’s nothing more than a title.
I know I love Bill. He’s a good man, but I don’t know how to talk to him.
Bill – Another silent meal today…
… followed by some bickering in the afternoon. We’re now spending our evenings in separate rooms of the house.
I want to tell Julia I enjoy her cooking, but I’m afraid she’ll turn it into criticism. I want to share my day with her, but I don’t want to hear another condescending tirade.
I have to do something. I don’t believe in divorce, but would I rather suffer through an unhappy marriage like my parents for the rest of my life? No. I must find help.
Julia – I feel so disconnected from Bill.
We’ve been spending our days in separate rooms in the house.
I try to tell him what I would like around the house and in our relationship, but it usually turns into an argument. I feel so hurt.
How do I talk to him so he’ll listen to me? I want to make this marriage work. I must find help.
Bill – Julia and I found a relationship coach.
She gave us a complimentary consultation. After meeting with us and hearing what we were going through, she said she can teach us skills and tools to heal our marriage.
That’s what Julia and I wanted!
But we have to put in the work. I’m ready and fully committed to learning and doing whatever I have to do to save my marriage. We’re getting started next week.
Julia – Bill and I have been seeing our new relationship coach for a few weeks now…
We have a total of 12 sessions with her, and most couples transform their marriage in that time frame.
She gives us homework every week, and we have online lessons to watch. I see a lot of progress in ours already!
Yesterday, I finally told Bill how I felt about our kitchen, and I am so ecstatic it didn’t turn into an argument!
I felt heard. I felt understood. I felt so loved by Bill. I can’t wait to see how many more skills we will learn during the rest of our sessions.
Bill – Julia told me yesterday how grateful she was…
… that we reached out to schedule that first consultation session a few months ago. I agree with her.
We’ve learned some important communication skills. Our relationship coach even walked us through some difficult conversations, and it felt like a huge weight off my shoulders. Julia cried. I cried.
I feel a connection to Julia like never before—perhaps an even deeper connection than the day we went on our honeymoon 25 years ago. Even our sex life is back! Yes!
The amount of healing we’ve seen in our marriage is priceless. I have no doubt Julia and I have the skills and tools to maintain the happiness in our marriage till death do us part.
We love each other, but we just can’t seem to see eye to eye.
Mike* – Patricia* and I celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary a few months ago.
It was nice to get a break from our little kids. The anniversary was pleasant enough, but all the other days have been filled with arguments.
I work every day. Our finances are doing well. Patricia is doing great at her job. I love Patricia so much, but we just can’t seem to see eye to eye.
I want to make this work. I want to feel like we’re working together—as partners. But she’s always angry. I feel alone and unheard. I know I need help, but I’m afraid of getting help because it might mean I’m failing at my marriage—especially since we’re group leaders at our church. What would they think of me if they found out my marriage is on the rocks?
Patricia – Mike doesn’t understand me.
It feels so hopeless. I can never seem to get my point across, and it makes me angry. I’m trying to communicate with him, but he doesn’t listen to me unless I raise my voice. And even then, I’m still not heard.
I feel guilty when I get angry, but I don’t know what else to do—especially since our babies are getting a little older and starting to notice. It’s beginning to affect my work.
I love Mike so much, so why is it so hard to solve our problems? Isn’t love enough??
We left church on Sunday, and all I wanted was to feel connected to him. We kept our smiles up as we greeted our church family. But the car wasn’t even out of the parking lot before we started fighting again. I’m so frustrated. I need help healing my marriage!
Mike – We finally reached out to a relationship coach a few days ago.
We’ve been searching for help for weeks. I think we finally found the right person for our needs.
She gave us a 30-minute complimentary session. By the end of it, I knew she could guide us step-by-step into creating the lifestyle and relationship that Patricia and I crave.
We’re going to work with her for about three months or so. I’m excited to learn the “how-to’s” in communicating effectively with my wife.
Patricia – Mike and I are finally starting to understand each other.
It’s only been a few weeks since we got started. We’ve been watching online modules in the “Millionaire Marriage” series as our coach assigns them to us. We’ve also been doing our homework, applying what we are learning in our marriage.
I’ve learned healthy ways to vent my anger away from my husband.
Working with our relationship coach has been incredible because she gives me practical tools I can use every day. Her instructions are clear, and the skills are so effective I feel hope in my marriage again.
Mike – Now that we’re finishing up our last sessions with our relationship coach…
My wife is my life partner again. Before we started, I only knew I loved my wife. Now, I feel it with every fiber of my being.
I look at Patricia, and I know that we can work through anything with the new skills we learned.
It feels so nice to work together. I feel heard and connected to her. She talks to me with kindness and respect. I thoroughly enjoy her company and look forward to spending more quality time with her every day.
Patricia – It’s been a few months since we started working with our relationship coach.
I feel so loved by Mike. I feel like he hears and understands me.
Every day we’re applying the skills and tools we have learned, and we’ve been able to resolve several issues, including recurring ones.
I am confident we have the communication skills necessary to keep us safe and within the bounds of respect. It’s like we have truly forged a soul-mate marriage. Cheers to five years of marriage, and here’s to 50 years more!
Are you ready to apply new ways of communicating in your marriage?
I have witnessed stories like Bill and Julia and Patricia and Mike over and over again. Different names, slightly different circumstances. If you’ve made it this far, then something about their stories resonates with you.
Those fights that keep coming up won’t just go away on their own if you wish it away hard enough.
I can teach you the skills you need to effectively communicate to feel heard and understood.
Creating a peaceful and respectful marriage with the one you love doesn’t have to be a mystery.
I know it can be scary to ask a stranger for help in the sacred space of your marriage. I am here for both of you to help you heal your marriage.
If you and your spouse are sick and tired of fighting and you both want to make THIS marriage work, give me a call to get started on your journey of marriage healing: (951) 387-8554.
We will schedule a 30-minute complimentary consultation to see if we are a good fit to work together.
*The above names and examples are composite narratives and do not reflect actual clients.