FAQ
Where are you located?
Right now, I offer all of my services online. So, wherever you are in the nation (or in the world with good internet!), we can meet virtually from a location convenient to you!
Someday, I might offer in-person sessions at my home office in Menifee, California. If that becomes an option, I’ll let you know!
What's the advantage of an online practice?
Online coaching is just as effective and personal (if not more) as in-person sessions.
I’m in my home; you’re in your home… and it can be easier to be transparent and vulnerable when you’re at your “home base.” The more truthful you can be with me, the more effective our work together will be.
You also get to associate your positive gains, practice your skills where you’ll need, and use them most, usually at home, where you spend most of your time with your spouse.
Another bonus is you don’t have to commute to my office! Spend less time in traffic and more time healing your marriage.
What is your cancellation policy?
I know life can be very unexpected. I ask each couple to please provide at least 24 hours’ notice. Sessions will be charged at full price if given less than 24 hours’ notice without an emergency. Call or email to reschedule.
Due to the constraints of my schedule, I am only able to offer 1 (one) complimentary consultation session per couple.
If your scheduled time slot no longer works for you and your spouse, please give me at least 24 hours’ notice to accommodate other couples. You may reschedule another complimentary consultation session as long as at least 24 hours notice is given.
Complimentary consultation sessions canceled with less than 24 hours’ notice are forfeited, and sessions may be rescheduled for a fee.
How is coaching different from therapy?
Both coaches and therapists are trained to help you overcome personal blocks. There are benefits to both, but let me give you an overview of the difference.
As a relationship coach, I focus more on your current circumstances and behaviors (rather than your history) to help you achieve the new reality you desire.
A licensed therapist helps you understand your history—the reasons why you “are how you are.”
In fancy words, as a coach, I am certified to help you uncover beliefs that don’t serve you (beliefs about yourself, others, and relationships)… and help you discover new, healthy views that support a happier marriage.
In less fancy words, basically, I teach couples the skills they need to talk without fighting.
Why should I hire a relationship coach?
Athletes hire coaches. When you read about Simone Biles, currently the world’s greatest gymnast, you will also learn about how her coaches, Cecile and Laurent Landi, supported, encouraged, and protected her interests along the way.
Business owners hire a business coach. According to its 2016 “Global Study,” the International Coach Federation found that “on average, those working with a [business] coach grew their net income by 46 percent.”
Others hire a life coach to help them navigate a career change.
Parents hire a parenting coach to become better parents… or even sleep coaches to help them instill healthier sleep habits for their babies!
Why not invest in the most important thing: your relationship to the one you promised to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE with. After all, YOU are the first models your children will have to learn healthy (or unhealthy) relationships.
We will take a skill-based approach to transform your marriage, using methods that reliably and predictably give you the results of a SoulMate marriage.
Because love, and loving others, IS. A. SKILL… and YOU CAN LEARN IT!
Do you work with people from diverse backgrounds, ethnicities, and religions?
Are you married? Yes, we can work together.
Just like there are laws to gravity (and those laws don’t care where you come from or what your beliefs are, they will always be true), there are also Laws to Relationships. No matter who you are nor where you are, the skills I teach applies because it follows the laws of happy & healthy relationships.
How long will we work together?
We’ll work together for 12 sessions (three months).
In that time, most couples transform their conflicted or unhappy relationship into one that’s far more loving, respectful, and valuable.
How long are sessions?
Do you take sides?
If by sides, you mean a side of guacamole and/or spinach dip, then yes, I will take some.
Otherwise, the answer is no.
I see both spouses together, never individually. This helps mitigate the “he said/she said” situation. This also allows every couple I work with to feel confident I am taking an unbiased stance.
We work to identify the behaviors that EACH OF YOU contributes to the hurt and disconnect in your relationship. This means the BOTH of you are learning new behaviors.
By the time you finish working with me, you will have learned skills to resolve conflict on your own in a peaceful, loving, and respectful way. There is no need for me to take a side when you are coached in resolving them on your own.
Do clients receive assignments to work on between sessions?
YES!
I supplement our time in session with “homework” because true transformation happens in your DAILY choices (not just in your one hour a week with me). This includes assigning appropriate lessons from the Millionaire Marriage Club.
What is the Millionaire Marriage Club?
The Millionaire Marriage Club is an online course created by the incredible Nancy Landrum, a coach for over 25 years and author of eight books who has helped countless couples worldwide.
As a couple, you can do this course without paying for coaching. But the couples I do coach have immediate access to this program, which is included in the coaching price.
Fun fact: I am also a certified Associate Coach for the Millionaire Marriage Club!
If you want to learn more about the Millionaire Marriage Club and how it will enhance your relationship, give me a call.
Will this hurt? Will we cry?
From what I’ve read and heard, nowhere near as much as divorce. Change is a process. That process may be painful. Undoing and unlearning decades of behavior and beliefs may be difficult.
The payoff of a healed marriage is exponentially more rewarding.
How do we get started?
Our first session together will be a 30-minute “consultation” via Zoom.
I would like to see both you and your spouse on this call. I’ll ask you both a few questions to get to know your situation better and make sure my skills fit your needs.
From there, if you feel good about working with me as your relationship coach, we will schedule subsequent sessions and payment.
How did you come into this line of work?
I’ll start by saying this: I never once in my life thought I would be doing what I do now. But here’s how I got here…
For me, it was personal. It started as a need to save my marriage. My husband and I sought as much help as possible: marriage ministries, counseling, books, etc.
As a last resort, we decided to make the investment and work with coach Nancy Landrum.
We had results like never before! After six months of working with her, all the fighting stopped. Our level of intimacy increased like neither of us have ever experienced before.
I’m certified to teach the very same skills that transformed our marriage.
Why should we work with you?
I won’t ask you to do anything impossible, and I’m good at knowing what’s possible—not just because I’ve seen many other couples do it, but also because I have personally lived the story.
Also, I practice what I preach.
When you’re looking to find the right person to help improve your marriage, you want someone who has been able to establish a successful marriage of his or her own.
I check that box.
I have the experience and training to pinpoint every defective communication & behavior creating the disconnect and hurt in a relationship. Then I will guide you to learn new behaviors and EFFECTIVE communication to experience a loving and peaceful SoulMate marriage.
You will experience a skill-based approach to resolve conflict and communicate effectively.
Are you a Christian counselor?
Yes. If you and your spouse are also Christians, I have been told this really enhances your coaching experience with me. I can also supplement our sessions with Scriptural backing upon request.
If you and your spouse are not Christians, no worries. I have also been told that your coaching experience is impactful and powerful. Why? Because I teach skills that follow the universal Laws of Relationships. No matter who you are or where you come from, these truths apply to creating a happy, healthy, SoulMate marriage.
What brand of tissue do you use?
There may be times during sessions where tears come during a breakthrough. Have a box of Kleenex available. Go for something soft, gentle, and reliable.
What's the best board game for couples?
Board games are a great way to have fun, communicate in a healthy way, and practice emotional self-regulation!
Here are a few games that my husband and I particularly enjoy playing together (in no particular order): Lost Cities, Azul, Castles of Mad King Ludwig, Pandemic, Ticket to Ride, and Splendor.